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Either way, the chances are good that you’ll exchange phone numbers, which is crucial for the next step.Assuming that things went well at the club, sometime in the next few days one of you (it might just as well be the girl as the boy) will text the other and ask them out for a The fact that both of you are aware that you’re on a date while simultaneously pretending that it’s not a date can make things quite awkward, but that’s how it’s done.Apparently they have trouble getting into the rules of the Swedish dating game.

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Of course, this gives a generalized picture, and I’ve heard of people meeting each other in other ways (Hannes and I have a different story, I’ll tell you some other time).

But from my experience, this is one of the most common scenarios.

If you want to ask out someone that you already know, from work for example, you usually skip the night out and go directly to the This is because the concept of a date almost doesn’t exist in Sweden.

If you would have asked someone you know to go out for drinks, that would have been very difficult to say that it’s not a date, which is why goes well, you’ll likely start texting each other a couple of times a day.

When I lived in Italy, I often got approached by different men who wanted to ask me out.

All kinds of people, too – waiters, policemen, the guards at the Vatican Museums, shop keepers.

So here’s the big mistake I made here: I tried to play the Danish dating game according to New Zealand rules: if we like someone we ask them out (heaven forbid) out loud, we flirt with the objects of our affections and not with our friends, and we consider the opposite sex a thing to ‘date’ not to ‘befriend’. Most Danes consider a solid friendship as the only way to start a relationship – the thought of an ‘awkward’ date or blunt comment like “I like you” is way too much for them to handle.

Most Danes I know have hooked up with half their friends and dated about a quarter of them.

Eventually you’ll have another date, usually at the cinema, and if that goes well too, you’ll have what constitutes a relationship.

Although it might still be a bit early to change your status.

The line between friendship and dating here is horribly messed up.

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