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If you haven’t petitioned for or received an annulment, .

And you both usually begin to resent the Church, scoff at her rules, and make excuses for your life style. If you haven’t thoroughly (and I mean thoroughly) examined why your marriage failed, what part you played in it—even back in the beginning—and taken the time to make great efforts to grow and mature through your divorce, you risk bringing all those disordered dynamics into another relationship. Don't use others--even "benevolently." If you are anywhere from simply antsy to deeply desperate to rebuild a family, replace a parent for your children, or otherwise avoid the discomfort of being single, you are probably reducing the new person to an object—like a patch over a hole, a plug in a socket, or a pill to take to feel better. Relationship red flags are meant to protect you and when you ignore, rationalize, or minimize them, you almost invite another divorce upon yourself and your children—and the new person and his/her family.

They are good things, but they must take second place to God.

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Despite the wounds of divorce, we can be like real-life, "Soul Surfer" Bethany Hamilton who lost her arm to a shark, but who spent enough time healing that she could relearn how to "swim".

If we will do the same, the waters of life will be deep blue and cool, where freedom from our fears keeps us afloat.

Now you can understand why someone may want to rush back, as it were, into the perceived safety of a new relationship.

They loved being married, being a family, or having sexual intimacy.

But try to drag her away into the scary deep waters where she can't touch bottom and you invite pure panic!

Kicking, screaming, and clawing her way across your face and out of your arms, she try to thrash back to the side to the steps, where she was happiest.

Did you ever try to teach your children how to swim?

Little Sara feels safe, secure, and enjoys the pool sitting on the steps or hanging onto the side.

Some admit it’s not wise rush into a romance but maybe they can just be “friends”.

Just some casual company of the opposite sex to feel like we are still lovable, right? Here’s when dating after divorce will end up as another disaster: Be truly available first.

When you rush back in the pool with floaties you’ll never be able to really “swim”—and when the waters get too rough, you risk drowning again. Even if YOU are "fine" with it, you never really know what is in the heart of the other. Many are guarded and taking their time, and rightly so, but many can prefer the safe and endless “dating” to a move toward marriage.

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