Couchsurfing is not a dating site

When Couchsurfing grows naturally, through word of mouth, through small blogs and so on it stays within the same type of people.The people who enjoy travelling, who enjoy helping others and sharing experiences.

I still laugh at the story of the angry Polish girl who undressed herself and waited naked in my Egyptian friend’s bed.

Let’s just say there was rejection, a lot of dramatic crying, and then sweet words of praise when it came time for her to leave him a reference.

We would start on the topic of travel and after briefly mentioning a trip or two, it was guaranteed I would hear come out of their lips the deal breaker, “I wish I could travel.” It is such a turn off to hear someone say that because there is nothing about my life that makes it so I have more opportunity to travel, the only difference is I make travel a priority and I find it as laziness for someone to “wish” and not take action.

I know my fellow travelers find the same difficulty in meeting a date that can relate, and one who wants the same kind of lifestyle travelers are attracted to, so even though Couch Surfing did not start as a way for travelers to find dates with people in diverse cultures around the world, it has a welcomed side affect that the founders may consider promoting.

I personally can’t judge him for that since my track record of dates have almost always taken place in other countries with men who may or may not speak English as a first language.

And from my own experiences staying with strangers on Couch Surfing, there is usually an element of romantic sparks.He says there is an automatic sense of connection because the site attracts travelers who are open to adventures, after all, not everyone is willing to stay on the couch of a stranger half way around the world.He tells me the women he meets have had more experiences and are more interesting than the women who live where he lives in Miami, Florida.He already has his flights booked for a second trip to San Francisco two months after my trip in Rome. It is the side where personal romantic relationships develop between host and surfer.I have a friend who prefers to date women who he meets off of Couch Surfing to any other means of meeting women.Just a few years ago it was so easy to couchsurf, I would never usually need to send more than 3 or 4 requests to find a good host, even with just two or three days notice.

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